Over on her blog
Several years ago someone got very angry at Jordon because he never phoned someone. Jordonâ€™s reply was, I e-mail regularly and I donâ€™t really call anyone anymore. The person was quite upset and ranted and raved about how stupid e-mail is. Now the situation was more complicated than that but Jordon was caught using the wrong kind of communication system than someone else and they took it personally.
I find myself in a similar situation. I publish this blog, contribute over at the cabin weblog, I use Upcoming, Twitter, Dopplr, and Flickr. When you combine all of that content, there is a lot of Wendy out there. You could even combine all of it together on Googleâ€™s Homepage if you wanted which would give you things like the weather at the lake and Saskatchewan Roughrider scores if you cared enough. For some that isnâ€™t enough or it isnâ€™t in the right format (e-mail, phone, paper) which causes problems for them. In the end it isnâ€™t personal enough.
Which causes this problem
In the end, I tend to think that the problem isnâ€™t the form of communication, it is the lack of relationship that allows you to go any deeper. If you didnâ€™t have a relationship with me and wanted one again, I would think this would be frustrating but at the same time, it isnâ€™t technology that is the problem, it is that we donâ€™t have a relationship and paper, phone, or e-mail wonâ€™t change that.
I wonder how much angst over new communication forms is based in insecurity over the relationships we fear are slipping away.