According to a certain Baptist pastor and theologian, they get beat up.
Bruce Ware, professor of Christian theology at Southern Baptist Theological Seminary in Louisville, Ky., said women desire to have their own way instead of submitting to their husbands because of sin.
"And husbands on their parts, because they’re sinners, now respond to that threat to their authority either by being abusive, which is of course one of the ways men can respond when their authority is challenged–or, more commonly, to become passive, acquiescent, and simply not asserting the leadership they ought to as men in their homes and in churches," Ware said from the pulpit of Denton Bible Church in Denton, Texas.
I don’t know if that is a view widely held by you complementarian believers out there but I found Ware’s statement’s fairly offensive. Blaming women for violence because they didn’t do what they are told is pretty low and is ignorant of the causes of domestic violence.
Of course I am biased, I find complementarian theology to be wrong in a multitude of ways but I find Dr. Ware’s position particularly disturbing.
Personally, this seems to be a particular problem with male complementarians (and men usually) in general. A good analysis of why Ware’s statements are frustrating here:
http://undermuchgrace.blogspot.com/2008/07/losing-sight-of-our-purpose-part-iv.html
This is why I no longer go to church or believe in religion.
Women are to submit to their husbands, but men are to love their wives the way Christ loved the Church! Christ-like love does not include abusing mentally or physically! As head of the household, if your wife is not submitting, it’s because you are not loving her the way Christ loved the church – adoring, cherishing, protecting, and providing (assuming both are CHRISTIANS and under BIBLE-BASED DOCTRINE). This does not include boasting your authority around and commanding her what to do, but rather providing leadership and being there for her when she needs you; her submission is completely voluntary on her part (even though God ultimately does expect her to submit) because Christ would never push anyone to do anything they were not willing to do!
If you are beating your wife, thinking that will get her to submit, you’re wrong. It is pushing her away. And likewise, women – if you are physically or mentally abused, you need to leave the relationship because your husband is not following Christianity and needs psychiatric help!